I make it as a priority to date my wife once a week. This has been a saving grace for my marriage to my wife for over 14 years turning 15 this year. The romance and relationship just started. The romance does not stop after you exchange your “I Do’s”. Never commit the mistake of taking each other for granted. There is a tendency to slow down in courting your wife after marriage. PURSUE YOUR WIFE EVEN AFTER MARRIAGEThis is one of the best advices that I received before I got married. Liked this article? Check out these other related posts: Have a great and a blessed day ahead of you! Please catch my next blog for the answer. So how can we remove PRIDE in a relationship? Chinkee Tan, Filipino Motivational Speaker Once you feel PRIDE in your heart UPROOT IT immediately!” Be an example to other married couples who are struggling with the same situation. Rekindle the fire inside each other’s heart. Never allow PRIDE to get into your way of loving each other.
Have you exhausted all possibilities? Have you really made an effort to talk to communicate or to reconnect? Have you ask for outside intervention like people who care for you? Have you tried professional counselling to make your marriage work? I have never seen anyone who made a decision when they are emotionally upset and live without the feeling of REGRET.” Definitely, I will not live in regret!”Ĭome on listen to yourself, it is PRIDE talking. Kung alam mo lang kung ano ang ginawa niya. “Chinkee, I know I am making the right decision. You know how pride will turn into 5 to 10 years away from now? It will turn to REGRET. The costs of your pride are these relationships will be destroyed, families broken apart, kids are devastated and scarred for the rest of their lives. There is one direction you are heading which is unavoidable that is if you’re too proud to apologize to your spouse, and if you choose to live in pride. You have made a decision and a resolution not to forgive.
Once it dies, it will lead to bitterness and unforgiveness. Then your emotional heart will stop pumping, and will soon die. Once your heart hardens, you will try blocking all kinds of feelings and emotions. If you are always thinking about your hurt and how unjustly you have been treated your heart will harden. The feeling of pain and injustice will be replayed over and over again The wounds will be infected once infection is not cured it will now move on to the next stage. Once the wound is left untreated it will breed resentment in your mind and heart. The wounds of pain and hurt did not yet heal. You do not answer his/her calls nor reply to his/her text messages. Emotional stone walling is an indication that you refuse to communicate. Shutting your door and locking yourself inside a room is a manifestation of your pride.
Part of it is by buildings walls the wall will separate you from the person who is causing your pain. Since you do not want to be hurt again it is normal for you to protect yourself. “Siya ang may problema, siya ang dapat magbago!” “She started this! It’s her fault, not mine!” Expected na siya kapag galing sa iba pero kapag galing sa mahal mo sa buhay iba ang dating.ĭi ba may bumubulong sa isipan mo, bakit ako magso-sorry? Iba yung sakit na mararamdaman kung nanggaling sa mahal mo sa buhay. I had a personal experience I was hurt by the one I loved most, and that is my loving wife. PRIDE will not make the RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE. With pride nobody wins in a battle both parties will come out hurt and wounded. In my years of counselling and life coaching, there is one root cause to most of the unresolved conflicts I’ve encountered.Ĭare to ask? Maybe, your guess is as good as mine.
“Have you experience a shouting match with your spouse?”Īllow me to start a new series about the POISONS OF MARRIAGE. “Have they made a promise they did not keep?” “Have your spouse hurt your intentionally or unintentionally?”